From Heather: The vows we ended up using were borrowed and altered a little from one of the examples in the workbook. . . . I just thought they were so simple and beautiful. We wanted something really short and almost melodious that we could remember for years to come. We had already selected a song that meant a lot to both of us that we wanted to play as the ceremony began titled “All of My Days.” That line is repeated sweetly throughout the lyrics. So when we read these vows, they matched almost perfectly to the song! I thought that was a good sign
Here is what we ended up using:
I want you to know that I love you,
And I will for the rest of my days.
I vow to trust you and respect you,
Tell the truth and embrace you,
Every day. All the time. And always.
I vow to honor and protect you,
Encourage and celebrate you,
Every day. All the time. And always.
This is my promise.
To share a lifetime of eternal, immeasurable love.
Without your book, we never would have stumbled across the beautiful framework for these vows, so I am very grateful!
We want to make it easy for you to write your own wedding vows, so we invite couples to share their own personal vows here on our blog. You can read other sample vows from first and second marriages in the “Wedding Vows” category of the
I Do! I Do! blog.
Today we’re honored to share the vows of George Rogers & Andrea Williams who were married on April 19, 1985 (and they’re still very much in love). If you’re like us, you’re sure to enjoy these simple, heartfelt, romantic vows of love.
George to Andrea
- I wed thee, Andrea, not to have, but to be my friend; not to hold, but to share my life.
- I promise you my love and affection so long as there is in me the strength to draw a breath.
- I will make my love a resting place by caring and nurturing and supporting and listening.
- I will always seek to be honest and forthright with you, though it may sometimes frighten me to do so.
- I promise to conduct myself honorably and in ways that will never undermine my trustworthiness in your eyes.
- I will try always to be as good as that person whose courage first enabled him to reach out to you. . .who cast his bread upon the waters and whose reward is embodied in our wedding today.
- I will act to protect my health so that we may share a long and fruitful life
together. . .full of joy and love. . .
- And if I should live forever and all my dreams come true. . .my memories of love will be of you.
Andrea to George
- With a mother’s love, I will nurture and care for you.
- With a daughter’s love, I will honor and respect you.
- With a sister’s love, I will laugh and play with you.
- With a friend’s love, I will support and encourage you.
- With a lover’s love, I will caress and cherish you.
- With a wife’s love, I will share my deepest self with you.
- And with the love of life itself, I will seek to enliven the pure Spirit that joins our souls and completes our happiness.
Below are the wedding vows from Elizabeth and her second husband, Carroll. These unique wedding vows show how different second marriages can be from first marriages for some couples.
Elizabeth Pavka & Carroll Thompson, December 28, 1991
In love, we two have become one that we may each nourish the independent expansiveness of the other;
We together seek that higher spirituality which is for all humans;
We acknowledge joy and laughter as the wings of life;
We caress the Earth as our beloved home in space;
We recognize the stars as relatives to the light in us;
We cherish our individuality and our separateness as the binding agents which drew us together as one, yet hold us apart as two;
We affirm all humans are one people, all life one life, all Spirit one Spirit;
We face the frontier of our personal spiritual development with joy;
We now unite our hearts, souls, bodies, energies, minds, senses, and emotions, that we each may more fruitfully serve the higher purposes we have accepted for ourselves;
God is Love. Love is Light. Light is God in us.
We came as two. We go as one. We are in Universal Union.
Below is part of the December 26, 2005 commitment ceremony of Tom and Maggie who are dancing to beautiful music of their love. They celebrated their union with loved ones in Annapolis, Maryland and created a ceremony that reflected their values and spiritual beliefs.
Tom: As you know, Maggie and I met almost 2 years ago on a cold, wintry night in January. Our first date was to the Boot Scootin’ Boogie where we danced to country music. Ever since, dancing has been a big part of our lives.
As we’ve gotten to know one another better, we’ve been filled with an ever increasing joy, wonder and gratitude for the reality of our spiritual connection. We’ve felt a deep knowing that we’ve been brought together by a power higher than ourselves. We feel that our relationship is a divine gift from God and we are so grateful to be blessed with this amazing and transforming miracle in our lives.
Maggie: The purpose of today’s ceremony is make a promise and a commitment to spend the rest of our lives together as loving and faithful partners. We like to say that we view our relationship as our spiritual practice.
We believe that those who pray together DO stay together. When challenging times occur, we have tried to seek divine guidance through prayer and meditation and with God’s help, we’ve found our way towards the light.
Tom: We want ours to be a holy relationship, one in which we don’t try to change each other but to see and accept one another just the way we are, knowing that our flaws and weaknesses will not be judged by the other but understood and forgiven. We will try to communicate rather than suppress our feelings and needs, knowing that rigorous honesty is the only way.
Maggie: We will strive to learn how to support the other in being the best we can be. Today we ask to be used by God to serve His purposes, knowing that his purpose is always that we might learn to love each other more purely. And now, may we pray together:
Tom: Dear God, May we feel the presence of the Holy Spirit blessing this ceremony and our intention. May we ask for your guidance and blessing that the vows that we repeat are true and spoken with sincerity and the highest purpose. We thank you for bringing us together and ask that you light our way now and always.
We ask for your divine grace to help us become a moving and loving life force, so that together Maggie and I can make a positive difference and a contribution to this world. Thank you for hearing our prayer.
Maggie: And now we will repeat our vows:
Tom, you have brought such joy and light to my life. I have prayed all my life for a good man to share my spiritual path, to make me laugh, to share my passion for the wonders of nature, to love adventures and being active outdoors, to dance and play with me and to love and accept me the way I am. And here you are, all that and so much more! You have become my partner, soul mate and best friend. I commit myself to stand by you whatever comes our way. I will honor and respect you, encourage and support you. I give you my unwavering trust and unconditional love.
Through all the changes of our lives, I promise to be there for you always as a strength in need, a comfort in sorrow, a counselor in difficulty and a companion in joy. I will nurture and care for you in weakness and in health. I vow to be faithful and true to you alone. May my love give you strength all the days of our lives.
Tom: Maggie, I have been thrilled — from the first time I ever met you — through every day ever since. I thank God for bringing you to me to be my partner, my friend, my soulmate, my lover…I thank God for having you to be my hiking and biking mate, my dance partner, my partner in exploring and adventure, my partner in treasuring nature’s wonders…but most of all, my partner in walking down this spiritual path together. And I’m so thankful that my daughters, Emily and Claire, have taken you to their hearts and love you so - and are so happy for me.
I commit myself to stand by you whatever comes our way. I will honor and respect you, encourage and support you, I give you my unwavering trust and unconditional love. Through all the changes of our lives, I promise to be there for you always as a strength in need, a comfort in sorrow, a counselor in difficulty and a companion in joy. I will nurture and care for you in weakness and in health. I vow to be faithful and true to you alone. May my love give you strength all the days of our lives.
Maggie: And now, Maddy and Jordan, will you bring us the rings please. We will wear these rings as an outward symbol of our love and devotion. They represent a circle that never ends, they are a symbol of wholeness and perfection, peace and love.
Tom, as I place this ring on your finger, I take you as my partner for life. I cherish you for your goodness, your passion, your generosity, your thoughtfulness not just with me, but with my friends, your willingness to learn, change and grow, your wisdom and your gentle and loving ways. I, Maggie promise you my beloved to give you my future in faith, my heart to you in hope and my life to you in love . . . today, tomorrow and forever.
Tom: Maggie, as I place this ring on your finger, I take you as my partner for life. I cherish you for your zest for life, for the beautiful smile on your beautiful face, which just reflects the beautiful smile in your soul and in your heart — which touches everyone who comes in contact with you — most especially me.
I, Tom, promise you my beloved to give you my future in faith, my heart to you in hope and my life to you in love. . . today, tomorrow and forever.
Here are the unique wedding vows from our friends, David and Deanna LaMotte. They celebrated in private on June 5, 2004 and publically on July 10. Though David is a gifted songwriter and knows how to put heartfelt words onto paper, we remind you that anyone’s wedding vows can be romantic.
David to Deanna
- I love you.
- And when I tell you I love you, this is what I mean:
You are the one for whom I have waited. You have brought me more peace and steadiness than I have ever known, and the days since I met you have been the best days of my life. Your ready smile, your deep convictions, your passion and compassion, your beauty, your laughter, your sense of adventure, your intelligence, your wisdom, your faith, your courage, your kindness and the lessons of your experience enrich me in every moment I spend with you.
- I offer you my history, with its pride and its regret;
- My future, walking with you wherever we go;
- This present moment, which explodes with more joy than a moment should be able to hold.
- All of my joy and fear, my brokenness and my courage, my success and failure, my humor and despair, my loneliness and my connectedness.
- I promise to laugh with you and to laugh at myself.
- I promise to take you seriously when seriousness is called for.
- I promise to hold you while you cry, and to cry while you hold me.
- I promise to care for you as best I can, and to encourage you to stretch and grow and care for yourself.
- I promise to love and nourish myself, as a child of God and as the one whom you have chosen.
- I promise to support you in sharing your gifts with others, to encourage your generosity and your chosen responses to your many callings.
- I promise to listen to you, respect and consider your thoughts and beliefs, and to heed your challenges to my own.
- I promise to rest with you, and to seek balance between work and play.
- I promise to seek God with you, bravely and constantly, holding you closer than any other human to the heart of my heart, with only God in the very center.
- I promise you nothing less than the rest of my life. You are my closest friend, and I give you myself. This is what I mean when I tell you that I love you.
- From this moment on you are my wife, and, with Divine assistance, I promise to be your loving and faithful husband for the rest of our lives.
Deanna to David
- I love you. And when I say I love you, what I mean is…
- Everything within me, from the most analytical thoughts (complete with pro/con lists) to the goosebumps and butterflies, and especially the still small Voice, tells me that it is right to commit my life to building a life with you…
- …because I believe we are stronger together than we are apart and that we can grow more in our intellect, our compassion, and in our faith together than we could alone.
- I promise to stand firm beside you as your partner in pursuing knowledge, adventure, spirituality, peace, and responsibility.
- I promise to love and honor who you are rather than who I imagine you to be, and I promise to present myself honestly and openly to you.
- I promise to support you when your strength is challenged and to ask for your help in my weakness.
- I promise to hold you as completely in my heart in the difficult times as in the joyous ones.
- I promise to be open to growth and change and the unexpected as we, as individuals, grow and change.
- And, finally, I promise to be open to laughter and wonder and mystery and, most importantly, to God’s will in our life together.
- You make my joys greater and my sorrows more bearable, and you make my spirit feel known. From this day forward, you are my husband and companion, and I promise, with Divine assistance, to be a loving and faithful wife for the rest of our lives.
Here are the original wedding vows of Tricia & Lance Secretan who married on May 29, 1993. They recite these unique romantic wedding vows to each other spontaneously and actively keep these commitments alive in the way they live.
I want you to know that I love you,
And I will for the rest of my days.
I will trust and respect you,
Tell the truth and embrace you.
Every day. All the time. And always.
For the rest of our lives together
Every day in your favor I’ll bend;
I’ll make rain seem like dew -
I’ll make you smile when you’re blue.
That’s forever and ever. Amen.
Here are the original wedding vows of John & Julie M., who were married on April 26, 2003. We were there and it was a heart-opening ceremony.
Julie to John
You fell from the sky into my life,
and I haven’t been the same since.
Bright eyes, warm smile,
tender heart, incredible soul,
you’ve captured my heart.
I promise to love you,
take care of you,
laugh with you and cry with you,
listen to you,
be compassionate to you,
and have fun … just have fun
living with you,
long after my body goes back to the earth
and my spirit to the sky.
John to Julie
I will lift you up and support you through times of laughter and tears.
At our brightest moments and darkest hours I will be there without judgment.
Compassionate and equanimous, I will be.
I will encourage you in your endeavors and nourish your spirit as we walk through this life together.
As we face the impermanence of our beings and bodies, our love will remain as a force for eternity.
I will always allow you to be you.
I will always love you.
Our friends Elizabeth and Eric were among the first to ask for our support in creating vows for their marriage. As they spoke these vows to one another on their wedding day, their voices resonated with passion and purpose. Clearly these are sacred commitments that Elizabeth and Eric intend to live by throughout their lives together.
Elizabeth Trezise-Barbour & Eric Barbour, October 23, 2004
I, Eric/Elizabeth, intend to be faithful, loyal, and trustworthy both as a husband/wife to you and as a parent to our children.
I intend that our marriage be guided gently and steadily by the hand of God.
I intend that we will explore and discover life together with curiosity, wonder, and openness.
I intend that we will make a home together that is grounded and playful as we enjoy the presence of Andy, Percy, Jasper, and Graham!
I intend to honor your needs and to clearly communicate my needs to the best of my ability.
I intend to always seek the goodness and grace within you even when you drive me crazy!
I intend to celebrate you when you’re strong and cradle you when you’re weak.
I intend to celebrate the uniqueness of you and the union of us.
I intend to nurture the balance of masculine and feminine that makes you whole and complete.
I intend that we will seek the support, guidance, and wisdom of our families and friends through good and challenging times.
May love be the way we live in gratitude as we continue to thank God for all of our blessings.
I will honor these sacred vows as we walk side by side and hand in hand, giving all that we have and being all that we are.
I, Eric/Elizabeth, will open my heart to you, Elizabeth/Eric, and love you with all of my being.
Here are our marriage vows, commitments that we continue to uphold. Our wedding took place on May 30, 1999 at Bend of Ivy Lodge near Asheville, North Carolina.
I will join you in full partnership to co-create the life we both envision.
I will join you in living consciously, purposefully, passionately, congruently.
I will join you in creating true community and a more compassionate world in which to live.
I will laugh and dance and sing and have fun with you.
I will tell you the truth even when I think you might not want to hear it, and I will hear you when you tell me your truth.
I will afford you your humanity and not expect you to always be at your best.
When you forget who you really are, I’ll remind you of your power, spirit, integrity, intelligence, creativity, athleticism and beauty.
I will remember that any anger, resentment, frustration I show toward you is more about me than about you and will refuse to hold ill will toward you.
I will be true to you and honor the commitments that we make to one another for all our days.
I will open my heart to you and love you with all my being.
I will be authentically me. Bringing all my gifts and challenges and willingly using all the tools I have to fully live out my life’s purpose.
I will be your mirror. Reflecting the truth and reminding you of who you are, listening attentively, with an open heart and mind as I seek to better understand and support you in fully living your life’s purpose.
I will be your helpmate. Willingly sharing our responsibilities and honors, owning my part in creating our life, readily and fully forgiving, and working together to put us back on course when we stray from our path.
I will be your partner. Treating you with respect and equality, being creative and flexible in living interdependently in a way that reflects who we are individually and as a couple.
I will be your lover. Passionate and playful, tender and loyal, sharing myself fully and nurturing our love so that we grow ever more intimate.
I will be your friend. Honest and trustworthy, compassionate and committed, sharing all that life brings us.
I will be your companion. Honoring these sacred vows as we walk together, hand in hand, heart to heart, soul to soul, for all our days, giving all that we have and being all that we are, to create a world full of peace, love, and understanding.